Konflikt‑Simulator

The same thing, said differently

You have a conversation ahead of you, and you know the first sentence counts. Here you work it out — in your words, in a few minutes.

See an example first
  • No AI — every question comes from a fixed rule
  • No account, no cookies
  • Nothing is stored, not on the server either

Try it on one sentence

Write it the way you would say it. The simulator reads along — before you select anything.

2 notes: “always” is a generalisation. “disrespectful” is a judgement, not observable behaviour.

Leads into defence

“always” is a generalisation.

When did you last notice it? Name that one occasion.

Leads into defence

“disrespectful” is a judgement, not observable behaviour.

What exactly was said or done?

For example:
You are aiming at a sentence like this

My phone was on the table; you opened the messages.

What is it about for you?

What happens in between

You write it the way it comes to you. The simulator reads along and asks back — at the places that predictably lead into defence.

  1. You describe the occasion. What happened, not what the person is like.
  2. You say what it does to you. In the I-form — nobody can dispute that.
  3. You name a request. Concrete enough that both of you can tell afterwards whether it was met.

You write the sentences. The simulator asks the question back and shows examples as a yardstick — it does not phrase things for you.

It does not work on you. It works on your sentences.

Orientation, not a promise

  • Not therapy, not mediation, not counselling.
  • Not a push-button conflict solver — you hold the conversation.
  • Not a guide to winning. This is about effect, not about being right.
  • No account, no sign-up, no cookies.
  • No AI. Fixed rules that sit in the source.
  • Your sentences are computed and then discarded.

Where there is violence or a threat, a prepared conversation is the wrong instrument. Find support.

The method Why three layers, why no AI, where it comes from Worked examples Computed live — to read, without typing anything yourself

Who built this

Günter Weber, Mainz — Turtle Coaching. That work is about structure and agency under real load, for neurodivergent adults. This tool comes from the same stance: mechanics rather than motivation, clear limits, no promise of salvation.

Five steps · about five minutes · nothing is stored

Kein Konto, keine Speicherung, keine Analyse-Werkzeuge. Was du hier schreibst, verlässt diesen Bildschirm nur für die Berechnung — und wird danach nirgends abgelegt.

Dies ist ein Reflexionswerkzeug, keine Therapie und keine Rechtsberatung. Bei Gewalt oder Bedrohung ist ein Gespräch nicht das richtige Mittel — such dir Unterstützung.